Here it is, the absolute #1 question I am asked and now, answered: How do you do it?
The answer is a lot more simple than people expect. Really.
We have a schedule. Everything in our house works like clockwork.
- 6 AM: Alarm scheduled to go off, we’re normally awake already.
- 7 AM: Zadey wakes up for school, eats, dressed, etc.
- 7:45: AM: We (or sometimes just me) take Zadey to school.
- 8 AM: Back from dropping Zadey off.
- 10 AM: Boys eat.
- 1:30 PM: Boys eat.
- 2:10 PM: Pick up Zadey from school.
- 2:30 PM: Zadey gets a snack, does homework, etc.
- 5:00 PM: Boys eat.
- 6:00 PM: Zadey & Moms eat
- 7:00 PM: Zadey showers.
- 7:30 PM: Zadey goes to bed.
- 9:00 PM: Boys eat.
- 9:30 PM: Boys go to bed.
- 11 PM: Moms go to bed.
- 1 AM: Boys eat.
- 5 AM: Boys eat.
In between what has to be scheduled, we do different things…
I run errands. I work (web design and this here blog). The boys switch between activities which mostly includes playing on a play mat, spending time singing with me, or reading. I get the house clean. I cook. I watch some TV. I talk on the phone. I take pictures. Every other day the boys get a bath. They are still in the stage where they sleep. A lot. Right now, at 12 weeks old, they spend about 3 hours a day awake, combined. That’s not all in one stretch. Slowly I can see that they’re spending more and more time awake. And as they do, they’ll be on a more consistent nap/play schedule; and I’ll have less availability. In the mean time, they sleep A LOT.
There is little I find that I can’t do. If I didn’t figure out how to leave the house with 2 babies by myself, I’d be stuck here. Then I’d fall into a serious depression. That sounds like I’m joking, I’m not. I have to get out. While I love my house and I can spend day after day at home, cabin fever does hit!
Depending on where I’m going or what I have to get done, I either use a double stroller that I can lock car seats into (or not, if they’re awake). Or, my other option is wearing the boys in a Moby wrap. I used to wear them in the Moby wrap more often than not. But that was when I was wearing just 10 lbs of baby between the two of them; now it’s 20 lbs of baby between the two of them. That gets heavy.
So far the only thing I have found that I just can’t do, is spend time in Zadey’s classroom. I did that as often as I could while she was in Kindergarten; but that’s not possible anymore.
For a date night or time with Joanne, we do have babysitters. Babysitters we are VERY grateful for.
I have said, many times, since the boys have been born that I feel very cut out to be a twin Mom. I got this. I get asked a lot “is it hard?” And I have to say honestly, no. I don’t find this hard. Henry & Oliver are good babies. There is not a lot of crying going on, they’re not overly fussy about anything, they sleep well, and generally are just happy babies. I realize not everyone has it this way. But all 3 of my kids, so far, have been easy babies. Because of their schedule, I usually am prepared with bottles when they wake up so that there is as little crying as possible.
So, how do I do it? I have a schedule. It’s flexible some days; but not by much. The boys consistently eat every 4 hours. That part has not changed.
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