It is no surprise that so many people have questions when they see twins. Yes, they’re a bit of a novelty, but for parents that wears off and the outside world still wants to know so many things about them. Yep, I get it. And my blog has really been the source for questions.
The good news? I love talking about my little men. They are really something to share. So, I thought I’d put in to a big post all your twin questions.
Ready? Here we go.
Do they have the same schedule?
Typically. They do go to sleep and eat at the same time. We have non-sleeping days sometimes too which will throw off our schedule a bit. It happens, but it never lasts long.
For example, as I write Oliver is wide awake and playing. Henry is knocked out asleep and has been for about an hour longer than I expected him to be.
We usually try to wake both kids when one wakes up to keep them on their same schedule. This isn’t always possible, but we try.
Are they identical?
It really depends on who you ask. Strangers seem to think that they’re identical. Zadey still struggles to tell them apart. For Joanne and I they look nothing alike and we can’t imagine how you think they do.
When I had the boys, they did run a test and they say they are identical. I’d like to have a second DNA test done just to be sure. It’s hard for me to comprehend how my body, that was never supposed to have a baby, actually managed to split an egg to create twins. It’s much easier for me to imagine that I hyper-ovulated and twins were created.
Is it hard?
My boys go in to what we call “melt down mode.” This is typically when they are tired or overly hungry. They’re both crying at the same time and they are both hanging off your legs making the ability to help them near impossible. But, we try to do everything we can to prevent melt down as quick as possible so this isn’t happening all of the time.
When not in our melt down mode, I wouldn’t say that it’s hard at all. In fact I’d say it’s totally do-able, fun, and at times easy. Yes, you do everything twice, but it’s so worth it. The fun really does outweigh any negative. So much so that I can’t really pin-point a negative side to twins with you.
How do you get anything done?
Schedule. Right from the start a schedule. But now we’re at the point where they’re busy all day long playing. They keep themselves busy and they really are each other’s best friend. They always have a play mate which means we have more time to get what we need to do done.
Do they get along?
Most of the time. We seem to have random days where one does not want a playmate and the other has his feelings hurt because his brother isn’t being very nice to him. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does happen you always feel a bit sad for the one who wants to play.
Otherwise, I would and do call them best friends. There is no denying the love they have for each other. They give hugs and kisses to each other all the time, they wrestle and play, and genuinely enjoy each other. Their latest thing has been playing peek-a-boo with each other around our bed. This has resulted in laughter for the whole family. I love the way they play with each other, and I love the bond that they have.
That’s not to say that we don’t have moments. We are in the biting phase and Henry more often than Oliver seems to be the target for bites. On the other hand, Henry really enjoys pulling hair and Oliver is at just the right level for him to do that too.
Do twins run in your family?
Did you know this is a science question?
Identical twins are spontaneous and just happen. It doesn’t matter if they run in the family or not, spontaneous is spontaneous. However, fraternal twins do run in families and genetics play a roll.
As far as I know, we have no fraternal twins in our family. I do however, have identical twin cousins from my Dad’s sister.
Read my post, the science of twins for more information on this.
Do they go in different directions?
This question always makes me laugh. They’re not really given an opportunity to go in different directions when we’re out and about. If we leave the house they’re either in a shopping cart, a stroller, or being worn. At home, they do their own thing and play with each other when they want. The funny thing is though, they’re never really far from each other.
Do they have their own language?
Funny, I can see this developing so I will say yes. They do talk to each other and when one finds something he shouldn’t he does make a clear call to his brother to get over here NOW! For now though their conversation consists of normal baby babble. They make each other laugh, a lot. It’s really fun to listen to.
Is it expensive?
I covered this one, once in my post titled the cost of 10 month old twins. However, it’s been awhile since I wrote that post and some of the costs have changed. For example, they’re no longer on baby formula so that cost is now out. But they’re growing like weeds so we have had to buy more clothes for them.
Safety 1st was kind enough to send us convertible car seats, so that eliminated a HUGE cost for us and couldn’t have come at a better time.
We do go through a lot more food for them now than we used to. This is because they eat everything we eat. By everything I mean everything. We had baby lobster tails the other night with dinner… they ate it. I factor in cooking for 4 people when I grocery shop as they tend to share a normal sized portion.
Do you wish you didn’t have twins?
This one stings a little and yes, I’ve really been asked this. I get the question, I really do. But I could never regret one of my children. I really, really adore having twins. It is so much fun. It’s not something every parent gets blessed with, and I’m grateful that for whatever reason, I was chosen to be a twin mom.
I don’t hate it a bit. In fact, I really want more children and I hope and pray it’s another set of twins. Though it would be nice to know what it’s like to carry just one baby.
Did I miss anything?
If you have a question about twins that I haven’t answered and you want to know, leave me a comment. We’re an open book so nothing is off the table. Ask away!
If you’re a twin mom, what questions do you frequently get asked?